Know Your Worth

What is Self-Worth?

Has anyone ever said to you that you need to “love yourself" more? And if so, did you ever wonder ... what does that mean? I personally believe that in order to love yourself, you need to know yourself. And once you get to know yourself, you get to decide whether you accept yourself for all that you are and maybe even change some things that you don’t accept. Self-acceptance is a precursor to self-love. And in the world of personal development, when you lean into self-love and self-acceptance, what tends to follow is self-worth.

An easy-to-digest definition of self-worth is this … Self-worth is the intrinsic value and sense of worthiness that an individual attributes to themselves. It involves recognizing and appreciating your own inherent value, regardless of external validation. Self-worth is closely tied to self-esteem and self-respect. It goes beyond external appearances or the opinions of others. In other words, self-worth relies on how YOU see YOURSELF. And whether you accept what you see and whether you choose to hold yourself in that space of admiration where you so often hold others.

A few things that contribute to self-worth may include a positive self-image, a sense of competence and mastery, the ability to set and achieve personal goals, and as mentioned, a healthy level of self-acceptance. Self-worth is often shaped by your beliefs, your experiences, and the way you perceive yourself in relation to others. And of course, how you were raised, your environment growing up, and your present surroundings.

Developing a strong sense of self-worth is crucial for overall well-being and mental health, as it can impact various aspects of life, including relationships, decision-making, and the ability to cope with challenges.

So How Do You Develop Self-Worth?

Cultivating self-worth is an ongoing process that involves consistent self-reflection and daily behaviors that promote a healthy lifestyle. Below are a few tips that might help you develop a greater sense of worth:

Practice Self-Compassion

• Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially during times of difficulty.

• Avoid harsh self-criticism and negative self-talk. Challenge and reframe negative thoughts as often as you can.

Set Realistic Goals

• Break down larger goals into smaller, achievable steps.

• Celebrate your accomplishments and recognize your progress!

Acknowledge and Appreciate Your Strengths

• Identify your strengths and talents. Focus on what you excel at.

• Remind yourself of past successes and positive experiences.

Embrace Imperfections

• Understand that everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. It's a natural part of being human.

• Embrace your “imperfections” by remembering there is no such thing as “perfect.”

Establish Boundaries

• Learn to say no when necessary and set healthy boundaries in relationships.

• Prioritize your well-being and avoid overcommitting yourself.

Surround Yourself With Positive Influences

• Seek out supportive and positive people who uplift and encourage you.

• Distance yourself from individuals who consistently bring negativity into your life.

Practice Self-Care

• Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

• Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Cultivate a Growth Mindset

• Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth rather than viewing them as threats or spiraling into a state of self-

victimization.

• Learn from the obstacles and the setbacks and see them as valuable experiences.

Seek Professional Support

• If self-worth issues persist or become overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional such as a therapist or counselor.

Engage in Self-Reflection

• Explore your values, beliefs, and identity. Understand what is truly important to you.

• Identify and challenge the core beliefs about yourself that may be undermining your self-worth.

Building your self-worth is a gradual process and you may find it beneficial to seek support and guidance along the way. If you’re noticing self-destructive behaviors or consistent disparaging self-talk, or even self-harming behaviors, please reach out for help. Most people, believe it or not, don’t know their worth. And working with a professional can help you see yourself, accept yourself, and help you recognize how truly valuable you are in this world. 

Remember ... YOU matter. 

With Gratitude,

Anahita